Continued yesterday's post
Hey all,
something was weird yesterday with my website. I would have written a lot more, but it was not included in the post.
What I wanted to say is that everyone who has been involved in abuse of any kind may be, In addition to receiving support from a psychologist, they should also be able to do a major investigation regarding their physical health. The mental fatigue that follows an abuse ( which can also be done by phone; think the old ones who are robbed over the phone; the new way to get over other people's money ) can be so deep that you think you are dying. I thought so myself, to this fall. Why should I start something new, when I'm dying anyway?
My former health center that knew everything about my history with the destroyer and more, did not want to cost me an investigation of the fatigue. It was considered too expensive. So I have continued to be sure that I am employed by a nasty disease that will still take my life in the end, pretty soon even, now that the destroyer could not really crush me.
By pure chance, a doctor caught this complex, when I applied for my fatigue – not at my old unhelpful health center but at one of KRYS physical health centers. Personally, I had missed the idea that my fatigue could be due to PTSD to oblivion – I was admittedly diagnosed with PTSD both from the hospital I first contacted 2014 when we had reported, and also precisely by the unhelpful health center called YOUR CARE CENTER, but no one had cared much about it, so I assumed I was just allowed to have it that way, då.
The young doctor at KRY caught up with what I said in passing about having been exposed to a psychopath and she decided that we should do an investigation of my physical condition to rule out illness.. Only THAT made me lift with relief. I was taken seriously.
The care! I am thinking of THE VALUE AND TASK OF CARE! Is not exactly this to CARE? To say ”we investigate you for your fatigue, but I think you're suffering from PTSD. But just so you know – and for all of us to know – then we will check you first so you can be free from your worries, which makes everything even heavier.”
Jo, IT is to CARE and to take their patients seriously. and THAT can not be said is the usual experience when we, who are tired and weary of the trials of life, asking for help. As we all know, women are also treated with less respect and seriousness than men who seek care, not least if we are also a little older.
I flew on light wings out of the KRY health center that day and felt the hope of a better life, than what is to survive. IT takes a lot of power, can I promise, to survive. There will not be much more content than trying to balance.
Now I know that all values are almost remarkable! I'm healthy as a nut. And have every reason to be grateful for it, which I sincerely am. And now I know that the gigantic fatigue is something I can deal with. It feels justified, because I'm not dying!
But the experience of being dying is a consequence of the traumatic thing that happened. I'm not unique, and thus it is crowded with people who unnecessarily carry on another despair, in addition to the one they suffered from someone's violence against them. The despair of believing that one is probably actually dying as a consequence of an abuse is probably as invisible as anything that can be more immediately associated with the suffering victim of violence, physical, mentally, economic violence, whatever it may be, have to deal with.
As always, I think most of all those who have been sexually abused. And who can never get redress in court. To bear all the deep violations of privacy, which damages both the most intimate physical and mental spheres…. no wonder many of the victims of sexual violence are losing their former power, its direction, their previous opportunities for success, peace and happiness.
The suffering of crime victims must cost society, who counts everything in money, gigantic sums. The knowledge about the victims of violence and abuse is so small. Even today, we have to manage most on our own. And society is not even able to stop those who use violence against others. Ödeläggaren, despite a sentence of three years in prison and the comment ” he is very dangerous to other people” by Frivården's investigators was placed in prison with the lowest security and when it was time for him to report, he was already abroad for several months.
But back to healthcare. Part of the victims' suffering, which lasts more or less for a large part of the rest of their lives, could be captured and relieved, but it does not happen. I have sought help myself. And even when seeking help, you do not get it. A tired woman, who had some difficult experiences, haha, such a yes. We give her sleeping pills and antidepressants!
I do not want sleeping pills and antidepressants! I want action. This is my life! Not even me, who gets a lot of support through all the wonderful readers who get in touch with me after reading THE DESTRUCTOR, has enough power to change the standstill. Jo, finally! But mostly thanks to an attentive and insightful young doctor at an ambitious health center , in this case KRY.
I wish there was a program that was always ready to pick in all the new victims of abuse and violence. First, an investigation of their physical health, then qualified psychological help ( not one who sits and looks to fall asleep while crying) and then CBT to help one get concrete order in his days again, and to help you see where there is light and strength in what you do and think and feel and how you can add more of it. CBT works great with digital meetings! In addition, physical exercise-to regain the feeling of being in his body, the feeling that there is room to move in, and to bring out some of his encapsulated anger. All of this together could help all huge numbers of victims of various kinds of violence to heal better, to become a functioning citizen again, and give hope to others in despair. You have to move forward but you have to have a lot of help to be able to do it.
All this I have applied for and paid for myself even though I have no money because the criminal almost put me on a bare hill and I do not exactly get a monthly salary as a writer.
Such an ambitious program for people who have fallen victim to the heartlessness of other citizens, evil, Of course, crime does not exist and will never exist. But just a thorough review of physical health would help many. However, it is almost impossible to get if you do not pay privately and it costs many thousands.
A thorough health examination may sound unnecessary, but I'm pretty sure of that. Everything settles within us, in our brain, in our body.
This is not news. But it seems that everything that is CARE is downgraded, eller …. it has probably never been a priority! How about society'S CARE about the women who give birth to children? How well a society functions in terms of care for its citizens can be deduced from school and care. Of course, we have heaven here in comparison with many other countries, but maybe not so good anyway. Not if you want to consider our democracy as modern, good country for all of us.
A great revolution should take place and if that day happens, so much more will be better for everyone: change the male role.
Or to be correct CONTINUE to change the male role! One of the most important.
