Correction! Violence against women certainly counts!

A giant entertainment industry counts it! An entire film world, an inexhaustible world of TV series counts it, a fat amount of writers count the violence against women in gold.

I wrote in my previous blog, due to Kajsa Ekis Ekman's article about Fjärilsvägen and the Destroyer, that violence against women does not count, just as she describes so clearly with the help of the critics' texts about these two titles.

correction!

At the same time written, produced and ”consumed” huge amounts of detailed depictions of violence against women. This brings in improbable income. Writers who get rich with this are proud of their fortunes, and film companies, streaming services and television rub their stomachs contentedly over how depictions of violence against women generate profits.

What if the industry that produces violence against women without end as entertainment could spare a few percent to the victims of the violence? Som good will? Maybe some writer who sits and ice cream with his millions could donate 4 % to women whose lives have been ruined, who were forced to change their place of residence, forced to go underground, have physical or and mental but for life?

Another thing I've been thinking about, which is directly connected to this with ” violence against women” – is that it seems that people in general do not understand that the women who are exposed to violence are any women. It is not a special variety. It is not written in their birth certificate that they are particularly suitable to act as victims of violence. Before they have been part of it, they have been part of the large group that has not been part of it.

It sometimes seems like a surprise to people. Now I start from myself , but I have seen really astonished faces when I pass by, as a matter of course has mentioned that I had never been in the vicinity of violence before the Destroyer through his child and my empathy entered my world.

”Va, Oh really?”some hiccup with big eyes. In this way, the unreflected assumption emerges that a person who has been the victim of a violent act, in this case a psychopathic person specializing in psychological violence, must have been predestined for it, perhaps in principle brought with it abuse from the beginning, with breast milk. That you have probably lived your life in an obvious perception that you belong to the group of people who meet the anti-violence quanta and do not have a lifelong experience of the opposite. You kind of stutter; ”You mean, that throughout your life you have an experience like mine – alltså, to go safe and secure in respectful relationships, you mean you have not already carried on a wounded integrity that the bandit has just loosened up a bit? VA? Do you mean that you were like ME before you met him?? Is it true? Did you not belong to a particular group as well??”

Back to maintenance violence.

If you look back at the cultural offerings in the history of mankind, you can be sure that it has never before been as normalized as now: the violence, gross violence, sexual violence, psychological violence and physical violence against women. At the same time as the women pass revue as victims are ”kvinnorna” not persons in these descriptions. They are deprived of their humanity from the beginning. There is nothing that makes us recognize them as if they could be one of us, one of mine, one of those I love or myself. They are always just victims. This discussion is old. I remember it from when I was a teenager in the middle 70- talet.

Because we have learned, fed by this violence from childhood, that the women who are sacrificed are not like ourselves ( not drawn as characters, individuals, people with their own world, in its own drive, enclosed in their own strong movement of friends, familj, interests, love, work) it is perhaps not so strange that one transfers the notion to the victim of reality for violence, and gets confused when it turns out that yes… they are like us, the victims of reality are just like us.

The disappointing thing is that the industry – it is more an industry than an expression of the inner body of man in artistic expression – has not changed since 70- talet. It has passed generation after generation of filmmakers, författare, producers and all have lacked the ability to develop. No one with power has worked to change perspectives. Violence against women certainly counts, and the amounts are gigantic.

There's something extremely perverse about that.