Blown and blown

Now the book The Destroyer has been out a little more than two weeks and many have read the interviews with me in M ​​Magazine, Femina, SvD, DN and DI and a lot have also had time to read the book.

It's amazing when I hear from strangers that they have read them extensively 587 the pages. They have barely been able to put the book away. I get dull and … ja, glad. Because what I thought about most was how I would pack all the material I had. How could I describe what has happened so that others can keep up and understand how such a mental wear and tear goes and can read everything? Because it's a long event, for several years!

That a purposeful abrasion of the victim's psyche and existence is the weapon that these people use to access what they want; – it can be assets, positioner, sex or just the satisfaction of ruling another human being- is something that is generally not known. You read or hear about someone who has lost a lot of money ( everything is measured in money, though it is usually not the worst, or even the main thing ) and thinks but GOD what an idiot!!!

The background, the insidious conscious game that makes this possible, I have some insight into through my experience, and that was what I wanted to portray. Knowledge is needed there! As long as people just shout in horror ” herregud, which pucko!” or similar when faced with a story about a person who has lost his life, people with psychopathic traits will be able to continue their duties quite carefree. The victims of them are punished twice, just like victims of sex crimes, when the environment is filled with contempt for the one who has been ravaged, obliterated, mentally abused. It's ignorance!

Probably not many people have been victims of purposeful mental abuse in their home , also workplace, who can tell you what has happened. I wrote The Destroyer only for the reason that my heavenly story could benefit others. Not to focus on this particular destroyer – there are hundreds of thousands, yes millions because about two percent of us have strong psychopathic traits and there will always be and people will always fall victim to them – and I did not write to put myself at the center. I would have preferred not to have the book with me because reality is so much more complicated and goes on uninterrupted, than what can be portrayed in a book and precisely because I have to simplify everything I risked to appear as .. stupid! But I had to, I felt it my duty, to tell based on my experience, to spread knowledge.

The material was of course endless, for how do you describe even the simplest situation that is so filled with a thousand signals and a thousand small decisions? To make it possible to tell and follow, I have of course cleared away 99. 8 % of reality. And since as soon as you have seen the book's title you know that the Other will be a destroyer, there was no point in trying to check out the reader in the same way that I myself was checked out.,exhausted and confused on the way to the fatal loans. ”Is he good or not? Is he reliable or not?” a technical grip I could have had fun with, but it would have been completely pointless because everyone already knows that he is the sneak in the book. In addition, it had cost a hundred more pages and no one had been able to follow it. You want to move forward in the actions! I have to ensnare the heroine( jag ) in the story fast and I did ( the author). I have also tried to create a logical line where it did not exist in reality to make it possible to read it all. The logical line had to be the flow of money, because that was what was prosecuted and most concrete. Nothing else was concrete. But money was not important while it was going on. A skilled psychopath distracts his victim from his own case. His case included money, but if he had been as clear as the author( jag) to the book did not have the victim( jag) happened badly! Okay, then I have to put up with being perceived as a bit blown away by the readers. Better that than putting on another hundred pages that embody the confusion, the exhaustion and all the other commandments and things I have to deal with incessantly. But it's not that fun anyway when people say ” But oh that she does not UNDERSTAND!” och ” I understood LONG before YOU realized he was going to fool you!” And such. It's not fun for my vanity and dignity. But under my vanity, I can still giggle a little at it, because it's a bit comical to others ( några ) says they understood long before I understood that he would deceive me. In fact, maybe it means that I have managed to write so that you forget that it is a conscious word processing of what happened and then you have to call such comments a plus!

Apart from that.

During these two weeks or so, I have received several letters a day from unknown people, who have taken the courage to read the interviews or read the book. Who no longer feel completely alone. Who understands that what they are exposed to or have been exposed to is like a template that can be applied to almost everyone who has been exposed to a person with psychopathic traits. They act in much the same way and the victims react in much the same way. The terrible thing is that the silence around this phenomenon and the ignorance of the common man becomes like a shield behind the abuses can continue. And when people have managed to get out, they are silent. So there is not much knowledge about it all.

Those who write to me now understand after reading the crucial; they are not alone and do not have themselves to blame. They have been unlucky enough to get in the way of a single goal bulldozer: take what they want because they think they are entitled to it.

Most vulnerable men have written to me. Most of those who have written are or have been exposed by women. How likely do you think it is that people believe in these men?? A man who says he has been abused by a woman? mentally and also physically, despite the fact that the man is usually physically stronger? Perpetrators with psychopathic traits are never guilty. Everything is always the fault of others. Perpetrators with psychopathic traits have the gift of speech and explanations come to them at the right moment. They can also play as human as they like. How sad and sad and wounded and scared at any time. They understand empathy. They feel nothing. And you automatically think that it is the woman in a relationship who is exposed. How big is the chance of being believed, if you are a man in such an intricate, difficult-to-interpret drama that lies so hidden in darkness and silence and ignorance? A vulnerable man has even more to fight against. And often they do not have as deep relationships with children and friends, that women have. No wonder the men who have been exposed, devastated and wiped out often choose to take their lives. But then the perpetrator is not around. Women's lives are also shortened by these crimes, but the perpetrator has long been busy in a new arena. And the story is not told.

I'm not surprised it is 80 % men who have written to me and asked for advice. Or written just because it's the first step. To tell someone for the first time. Several have written that they have now been given the energy to make a report. But what can you report?

Can you report that someone has kept you awake at night so that in the end you can not think clearly and just say yes to anything to get to sleep? Can you report that someone claims that you have done or said things that you have not done or said, so much so that one finally begins to doubt oneself – so-called gas lighting? ( efter Hitchkocks film Gas Light)

Can you report that someone confuses and tires you out with intense talking while trying to stay awake after constant sleep deprivation? And that the talk contains contradictions, the whole behavior is contradictory, that nothing lands, that nothing is calmed, that there is a diffuse threat beneath everything – or do not? Have you misunderstood everything?

Can you report that someone is playing one against your nearest and dearest? That someone makes sure that you miss all meetings? That someone is withholding information?

It's enough to keep someone awake. With that you get very far, hör ni ni. Try for yourself! See what happens to you when you are never allowed to recover! How many days would you endure with a constantly talking loud person in your vicinity who circled closer and closer and nagged? But can you report it?

Nej, most things that people of this kind do to break down and access what they want, can not be prosecuted.

Nevertheless, you must report!

In any case, the book has already fulfilled its mission. It helps people who need all the help they can get. Then I have to put up with seeming blown like ”grounded by a clown”. It's worth it. Phases, what it's worth!