The destroyer and society leave the victim to their fate ( me in this case )

When the perpetrator, in this case ” Sam Paris” which everyone can read about in the book ”Ödeläggaren” , do not pay what they are sentenced to, you can turn to the Crime Victims Authority to apply for compensation. Det gjorde jag.

Sam used psychologically advanced violence and also physical violence, manipulations and threats, to get over the money he knew were anchored in the walls of my condominium in the middle of Stockholm. The psychological violence and his siege of my life were his weapons. He got good help from the fact that my father died suddenly in the same crank that I would otherwise have gotten the intruder Sam out of my home. We had no love story. I had acted out of compassion, honesty and a sense of responsibility. He had used his little son to awaken my compassion and my strong sense of responsibility. He also used simple tricks like keeping me awake at night and latent threats that I did not understand and I was quite exhausted when my dad suddenly died and Sam Paris immediately put his claws in me.

Everyone who has read my book knows this and it's a little annoying, but that's part of the condition for him to carry out his cold-blooded crime against me – that is, ruin me, to then try to silence me – most victims of psychopaths remain silent. I reported with the help of my family, when it was all finally discovered in much the same vein as I considered taking my life as the only way out of the chaos he had created in my life and not least in my ruined brain. Exhausting the brains of their victims is, of course, part of the method, such are psychopathic people masters at.

While the crimes, the tenfold as I call it, because it was about ten transfers of money to his account - lasted for three and a half years in addition to the intricate and threatening psychological violence ( which you can read about in The Destroyer and which I will not repeat here, just nu) a physical violence. As is often the case when an individual is exposed to physical violence in a situation where they are stuck, t. eg as when a young person is sexually abused by a relative or the like, the brain seems to choose to repress it almost immediately. It was the same with me. Jag var rädd, I was exposed – but could not bear to understand it – and when he spiced it all up with a little physical force, it exceeded my ability. I could not take it, process it. I was fully occupied with keeping myself together so that I could manage something like that in the future.

The memory of the physical violence came after I had reported his crime, but still within the time when facts could be added to the preliminary investigation. I sent a picture of my buttocks, which were bloodthirsty of his kind, to the police who investigated the case. He was a very kind and empathetic person. I also told him that Sam used to knock me over when I walked through my own apartment, over the living room floor. I never knew if that would happen, and I did not want to be afraid. In addition, I have to go back and forth in my apartment! Sometimes he knocked me over and over again, sometimes not in a month. Suddenly I was lying under him on the floor. He stood over me and laughed. Once he stood over me with his fist clenched and aimed at my face, from its entire length. That time I crawled away.

Many times he hauled me in as I passed into my open-plan living room ( so also kitchen ) and pressed me down over his knee and slapped me over the butt with an open hand. Länge. He held me with his other elbow in my back, leaned heavily against me and struck with all his might with his free hand. While he laughed. Once I took a card, because I myself wanted to see because it hurt so much. My buttocks had almost burst into blood, they looked as if they had been whipped.

Many times he came from behind when I sat down and started ” massage” my shoulders. Sometimes it was in all ” friendliness ” even though I had never asked for it and never liked it. I could not exactly protest. Most times continued ” massages” hard up my throat, he squeezed so that I had to open my mouth and then he pressed his fingers into my mouth, sometimes so far down that I cried. I sat still. I showed no emotion. I thought it was best that way. He would not win. Those times he did not laugh. He went his way without a word, just a dark look over his shoulder.

When I started to feel safe, then I understood that they mine caught me and existed for me – and I had reported, memories of these abuses began to recur. I remember one time I suddenly told them to Patric that I was with then. He was completely shocked. And I exclaimed in shocked laughter ”You could almost say that I have been abused!” he looked at me dumbfounded. ” Ja! You HAVE definitely been abused! Not just one!”

I myself had not had time to grasp it. It took quite a long time. The brain can only take one small piece at a time.

I reported this to my detective. He said it was not interesting for this case. How can it not be, it was one of his weapons to dismantle me, scare me and make me do what he wanted?

Nej, it is a civil case, in my police. In that case, it is another notification, separated from this.

The police wanted copies of mine 23 diaries where I had written a bit about what was going on. Jag skrev, but I wrote to try to remember everything he had said so that I would avoid suffering so much worry and anxiety incessantly, and to orient me. I thought it was me who perceived everything wrong and who was full of shortcomings. That's how they work. In my fragility after many sleepless nights ( finally several years ) and my dad's death I was no longer as cocky as I had been the first time we got to know each other. He felt how he began to defeat me. He would finally win. But now I was with the police and the preliminary investigation had begun the day after the report, a prosecutor was involved.

Polisen sa ” but we only want the parts where you write about what he says the money should go to. That's just what's interesting about the goal. ”

”But the psychological violence then? Everything he did, hotade, and scared and confused me with? That was his weapon to access everything?”

”Nej, it's not interesting”, the police replied. ” skip it.”

But why? Jo, for psychological violence is not punishable in Sweden.

In my case, there was only one thing that was punishable and that was that he had said that the money he made me lend would go to other things than what they had demonstrably done.. I thought they would go on to build a life for him and his vulnerable little boy. And I thought he was driven by the desire to improve the world, a man who himself came from deeply poor and racist conditions. Så var det inte. They went to finance a short period of flair and luxury in his meager life, instead. Nothing to the boy, To us.

His weapon was thus not something that was mentioned in the case.

When we came to the District Court, I had my story crystal clear. He himself had forgotten most things because he always lied. It can be difficult to keep track of lies for several years. I had written down so much that I knew. That was my strength.

However, the prosecutor had understood something beyond the purely legal and said in his closing argument that what happened to me was a ” normalisering” . I let out a sob when I heard her say that. She understood much more than the law. Of course, this is often the case. But it was nice to hear there on the spot in the District Court. Two of the judges wanted to give him another six months in prison precisely because of this, but not the councilor and the third judge.

He was sentenced to three years in prison and sentenced to pay back everything with interest. I also received meager damages for the only month I had been on sick leave in connection with the report, of nine thousand kronor.

Of course I have not received a penny. The bailiff could not seize anything. Naturligtvis, he had run out of all the money and sold everything he had and also escaped the country because he was not arrested, despite being sentenced to three years in prison. Instead, he appealed the verdict and was given more than a year before it would come up in the Court of Appeal, during which time he fled to Sri Lanka..

And I then?

I got my redress with the district court, the two hours and a quarter I spoke there incessantly. And I got my absolute redress when the verdict fell.

But how do I cope?? Jag är författare, I have no monthly salary, no work to return to.

Many believe that I have received some kind of compensation for what was taken from me. Det var 3, 4 million kroner which with the interest he has to pay today is 6 million.

Nej, I have not received that. I have not received any information about anything either. But in the end I took, when I managed to grab it, find out for yourself.

When the criminal does not pay what he owes ( how often does it happen?) and it is sentenced to pay damages and compensate everything, so you can turn to the Crime Victim Compensation Authority and apply for compensation from the state.

I did that in October 2020.

A couple of months ago I got an answer. I had my application rejected. But I got the nine thousand that Sam would have paid me in damages. Why did I not receive more damages, you can also ask yourself?

Response: Psychological violence does not count. Burning and pain and lost income because of it count. Burning and pain can be caused by physical violence. But not mentally, not even if it lasts for several years. Jo, one can get all kinds of physical ailments but they can not be linked to the mental violence.

So only the month I was on sick leave remained and it was a gamble, said my lawyer. But it went through. Nine thousand kronor.

I did not expect the state to reimburse me the full amount Sam Paris robbed me of ( nej, it does not count as robbery when there is no physical violence, förresten) but if only I had received 10 % would have been a great help to me.

But I got nothing because of what I have been exposed to, with the result that I became homeless and have lost a large number of years of work and gone into therapy for seven years and at times have to eat both sleeping pills and antidepressants, called ” property crime”. According to the verdict, there is no violence involved.

This is what the Crime Victim Compensation Authority's decision regarding my case says:

”Criminal damages for pure property damage are only provided in exceptional cases. Compensation is paid if the perpetrator was admitted at the time of the crime, on the run or on leave from the penitentiary, from certain state treatment homes or was detained. In addition, there must be special reasons, t. ex that the crime has been committed against the employer, foster parents,supervisors or others who are in a similar relationship to the perpetrator. in certain painful situations, compensation can be paid even though the perpetrator does not belong to any of the mentioned categories ( paragraph 6 – 8 the Criminal Injuries Act) N. N ( I who have protected data) can therefore not receive any compensation.

Violation.

In order for compensation for violation to be provided, it is required that the criminal act has entailed a serious violation of the injured party's personal integrity.. HD has established that even if the crime of fraud is characterized by a certain suggestion, it is required that the act includes an attack on the plaintiff's person, frihet, peace or is for compensation to be paid ( WELL 2019. s 607)

The crime that N. N has been subjected to, according to practice, in itself does not constitute such a serious violation of personal integrity that compensation can be provided. Nor has it emerged that the current act involved such an attack on N. N:s person, frihet, peace or honor that compensation for violation shall be paid. N. N can therefore not receive any compensation for violation.”

And why then?

Jo, because the physical violence was not considered interesting in the case and the dominant psychological violence is simply NOT COUNTED AS VIOLENCE IN THE LAW OF THE SWEDISH KINGDOM. The crime victim authority's decision is made based on the verdict. No violence is mentioned in the verdict.

Så… society has cost an investigation that lasted for several years, prosecutor, lawyers and a lawyer for Sam, plus negotiations in district court and in court of appeal ( where he was absent with the help of a fax from Sri Lanka stating that he had tourist diarrhea and could not fly)

He received three years in prison but was able to leave the country free as long as the sentence did not become final – which it did not do because he had appealed to the Court of Appeal.

I do not receive any compensation. Jag tänker ; how many crime victims I am there, who have been looted by criminals, homeless and had our lives ruined – by a psychopath whose main method is psychological violence? how are we supposed to cope? What does it cost that innocent well-functioning citizens do not receive financial assistance after crimes of this kind, but in fact – faktiskt! – runs a high risk of ending up on the street? Regardless, they burden healthcare year after year. Vi.

We believe that all people are taken care of here. It is believed that victims of crime are taken care of by society.

This certainly does not apply to victims of psychological violence.

in GB, they have come a long way and recently instituted a law against psychological violence and when the psychological violence is a step in accessing someone else's property or money, the punishment is even sharper.

Here we are so far after that , as an established and successful writer, is called an idiot in the newspapers' criticism of the book for having been subjected to psychological violence.

Men nej, dear friends who take it for granted that society has supported and helped me – I understand that there are very many who believe that there are funds to get from the crime victim authority – Nej, it's not like that.